💞You got this kid

Nine months post-heartbreak, i returned home for a few months and the version of me who had rebuilt herself met the version of me that still existed in people’s memories. i felt different: calmer and more secure. i stood up for myself in ways that were measured rather than reactive. i needed less reassurance. i explained myself less and i trusted my own pacing. that is what alignment looked like for me. not perfection or performance - just clarity, calm and self-leadership.

And now, i’m stepping into the unknown again.

I’m moving to a new city where i know nobody, beginning once more to build a life for myself. the last time i did this was just over two years ago when i moved to Vancouver. i remember those first few days wandering the city alone, taking it all in. i had no idea what lay ahead.

Within two months, i met him and the whirlwind began. when i think back to that time, i remember how happy i was and how much fun we had. we were both new to the city, curious and eager to explore everything together. for a while, it felt like magic.

There’s a part of me that has felt frustrated, for not creating more balance, for investing so much time in the relationship instead of building other parts of my life more intentionally. but writing this now, i can see there was no other way it could have unfolded. we were madly in love. that love changed me and the heartbreak changed me again. both were life-altering. both created growth and both were really fucking painful.

Now, i’m clear on the life i want and i’m building it for myself, trusting that what is meant for me will meet me there. i don’t have a job or a long-term place to live, but i have something far more important: alignment.

I feel steady. i feel clear. i feel ready. and most importantly, i trust myself. i trust that what meets this version of me will be different. my vibe will attract my tribe.

And i have a quiet feeling that everything is going to work out not because i’m naïve, but because i’m no longer abandoning myself along the way.

I hope this guide and my story have helped you find your way to that place too 💜